What Causes Anxiety in a Relationship?
The root of relationship anxiety stems from difficulties you are having in the relationship. You may be concerned about whether or not your relationship will last. Perhaps you could be unsure about whether or not you can trust your partner.
Maybe commitment issues could be stirring, and it is hurting your relationship. Anxiety can affect an individual’s life in many different ways.
The problem with anxiety is that it not only affects the individual suffering from it, but the people around you as well. Below, we are going to look at possible reasons why anxiety has manifested in your relationship and ways to overcome it.
Clinginess and Jealousy
While many people usually welcome closeness in a relationship, being clingy is entirely different and something that is frowned upon. People with anxiety tend to feel insecure and develop a strong need for their partner to fill an inner void.
Feelings of jealousy usually arise when a person with anxiety fail to get a quick response from his/her partner. Such behavior can lead to bigger relationship problems if left unchecked. You or your partner will attempt to achieve this by pushing for constant reassurance from their partner in order to feel ok.
This will only lead to over-dependence, which is being displayed by clingy behavior that puts a strain on the relationship. Self-love is the only way to fill this inner void. When this is achieved, anxiety from overthinking, insecurity, paranoia, and suspicion will diminish.
Avoidant partners tend to handle stress and anxiety in relationships differently by needing space rather than closeness. They may appear detached or even distant to their partner who requires some closeness. In fact, they may fear clingy people and will have a hard time completely honest with their feelings about their partner’s clinginess.
If they are feeling some negative emotions, they will deny it or keep it to themselves until they are able to get some alone time to process their feelings. Their partners can interpret this behavior as being cold and emotionally unavailable. It can even make their partners feel rejected.
Loneliness and Confusion
Sometimes a person can feel alone in a relationship and confused on why when they know that they aren’t entirely “alone.” You are supposed to have each other and feel confident in the union to feel good as one.
However, if the communication with their partner has stalled or things have come in between, causing you to feel disconnected, then it’s time to talk.
It’s important for the two of you to come together and figure out what is causing the feeling of loneliness and confusion.
If neither one of you is eager to be with one another, then it’s a red flag and time to re-evaluate the relationship. Try seeking couple’s therapy to help you to find the tools needed to bring you closer together.
Amplification of Small Problems
If you are in a relationship, it is certain that you and your partner will encounter problems. It is just natural, and you just need to deal with the problems as they head your way. The problem with anxiety is that it can amplify petty issues, even the smallest of problems can seem big with a person suffering from anxiety.
As mentioned earlier, people with anxiety tend to become paranoid. A simple deviant behavior by their partners can be misinterpreted as a symptom of a nonexistent problem. For example, a person with anxiety can misinterpret a simple change in their partner’s behavior and may assume a bigger problem that does not exist.
Take a time out, calm down, and approach the situation from a levelheaded manner. Understand you or your partner’s anxiety and try not to exasperate a negative situation to be bigger than what it really is. Come together and find an amicable solution that the two of you can agree upon with love.
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